What You Should Know About Fostering Children

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Updated: January 12, 2019

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Choosing to foster a child can be an extremely rewarding and gainful experience not only for the child but for yourself as well. Life has its complications and a child can end up in a situation that is less than ideal. Fostering differs from adoption in that the responsibility for a foster child is still primarily in the hands of the state as opposed to the family that has been making the legal guardian of the child. In essence, you’re temporarily helping to house a child in need.

There’s much more to fostering a child than just having a bit of space and the desire to help out, though. It is a massive responsibility that should not be taken lightly. You’re going to be put in charge of caring for the needs of a child during some of their most formative years. These needs include the physical and emotional needs of the child and not everyone is up for the task.

If you’re wondering what you might be leaving out when considering whether or not you’re up to the task of becoming a foster parent, here’s a few things to keep in mind:

Effective Communication Skills

The ability to resolve conflicts between you and the child amicably and in a way that provides a learning experience for the child is essential for their healthy growth and development. Not only that, you need to be able to communicate with people like school teachers and doctors to ensure that your foster child is receiving access to the resources they need to flourish. You should be able to deal with problems effectively and without getting angry as issues will arise eventually, it is simply a matter of time. It is up to you to decide how gracefully you’ll deal with these issues.

Have Enough Room In Your Whole House

Children take up a lot of room. They like to play, hide, and explore the environment they are in as part of the healthy development. According to this article Everything You Need To Know About Fostering Before You Apply from Perpetual Fostering, you need more than just a spare room to become a foster parent. I think that rings extremely true and many people underestimate just how much space you need to adequately care for a child. Much more than just having a place to sleep, children need places to eat, relax, and spend time with other human beings. So, you need to make sure that you have enough kitchen space to have your foster child eat dinners with you and ideally enough seating room in the living room so they can share entertainment time with you as well.

Be Prepared For Challenges

As worthwhile as it is to decide to become a foster parent, it is a path full of ups and downs as you contend with the needs of a growing child. You need to carefully consider what age of child you can best care for and also understand that you’ll have to frequently deal with the foster care system of your respective country, bureaucracy sometimes gets in the way of no-nonsense child care. The more adversity you can face and come out on top of, the better the child you’ve taken in will turn out.

Understand Your Limits

Before you foster a child, you should take a few months time to fully understand the limits of your family unit and the home in which you reside. This way, you’ll be able to better figure out what age and gender of the child you’re adequately prepared to handle. You need patience in dealing with your foster child as well as the ability to let go when it comes time for them to move on to the next stage in their lives. If you’re married, there’s a good chance some added strain will be placed on your marriage as you both contend with the added responsibilities the child brings, and friction can easily happen if one partner is much less into the idea of becoming a foster parent than the other. Carefully assessing your personal life is vital to being a good foster parent.

These tips should not dissuade you from thinking about being a foster parent, but it should serve as a wake up call that this decision is a much bigger one than deciding to be an Airbnb host or getting a dog. If you’re the type of person who likes to embrace a challenge for the betterment of others, you’re just the type of person well suited to becoming a foster parent. Remember, once your time is done with the child you’ll have to say goodbye, this is one of the hardest parts for good foster parents since they will have created a strong bond between them and the child.